I think I will never understand how there are parents complaining how their children are being raised, while they chose to have other people raise them. 

It is everyone’s choice how they want to raise their children, the type of parents they want to be and where their priorities lie. Everyone needs to make the choice that is right for them. I have my opinion on that but that doesn’t matter right now and has nothing to do with what this post is about. 

I know several people who chose to put their children into daycare or have the kids’ grandparents or other relatives watch them and that is their choice and none of my business. Like I said everyone should make the choice that is the right one for them. 

What I don’t understand is the people who choose to have others partially raise their children and then complain about how their children are being raised by the third party or bringing up everything that they do wrong. 

Here’s the hard truth, no one working at a daycare can consider every little eating habit you would like your child to follow, they have to focus on the ones that are actually an issue and could lead to serious health problems. Diet choices you make for your children for any reason that doesn’t have to do with allergies is nothing a daycare can consider. 

Your child will also learn behavior you might not be fond of, but that’s just how it goes. 

Grandparents are allowed to spoil their grandchildren and make exceptions to your rules, that is the way it goes. They had to put up with all of the fights, the tantrums, the yelling while raising you, they are done being the disciplinarian, they earned the right to simply have fun with your kids and spoil them. 

If you want others to follow the rules you set for your children, point them out and let them know exactly how you want things to be done and how to react in any given situations. If you don’t do that, you don’t get to complain. And no you can’t tell the employees of a daycare how they should raise your child. They are already understaffed, they don’t have time to follow a different routine for every child. If you’re not okay with any of this, don’t let your children be raised by third parties. 

Don’t give them away and then complain about the way things are being done. That’s not how it goes, it was your choice to not raise them 100 % by yourself.